A jackhammer is a mechanical tool that hammers at the ground. Note a woman's vulva is not your pavement. 🌸
Most of us adult vulva owners have experienced once, if not multiple times feeling "Jackhammered" during sects. Trust me, jackhammering, does not feel good, and has a way of numbing out pleasure.
When I think of the vulva of a woman, I envision a flower 🌸. When a flower is approached with reverence, soft breath, and tender caress, it allows for natural juices 💦 of arousal to build, until she is ready to receive, and be lovingly penetrated. 🫦
Never rush or force, for if you did, the petals of the flower would break or wilt if not ready and open.
Now gents, I imagine how frustrating it can be when you desire for your lover to feel pleasure and are doing what you think feels good to them. 💞
What feels good and pleasurable during sects may of gone unspoken in your life and relationships. Held back out of shame, embarrassment, or simply not knowing how to start the conversation. It's perfectly human!
We are all learning and evolving. "Repetitively jackhammering a vulva with no feeling of connection may leave your lovers sweet vulva, desensitized and irritated only to lose the wet 💦 lubrication of arousal that we all love to feel. The body at times can go as far as clenching 😠 in a natural protection mode. All gone unnoticed when there is a lack of body awareness and presence. I do feel jackhammering your lovers vulva is an outdated idea. One that does not add to the top skills of a lover. If uncertain ask how would you like me to penetrate you? Do you like to be jackhammered? Consent is the sexiest way to honor all humans in your sex play.
How would it feel to let it go and open up to new ways to elevate your sects skills? It is all so exciting! 🤩 There are many classes and techniques these days, however, what really matters is what feels good for your lover in their body. Bodies are so different, how we feel pleasure will vary. 👇🏽🫦👇🏽🫦👇🏽 ✨Slow down, set time aside to touch, and ask questions. ✨Make time outside of penetrative play for more focused exploration of each other's bodies. ✨Direct your lover with kindness if something doesn't feel good. ✨When you see arousal building, when the body seems ready to explode, slow it down, pause, and then build it back up again to create multiple waves of pleasure instead of just one ending climax.